–Get advice. You don’t have to write in to Dear Abby, but you can and should seek out relationship advice. Read up on dating blogs or ask your friends for some insight. Are you too clingy? Do you get passive aggressive, like your ex claimed? Seek out the truth.
– Embrace yourself. If your friends claim you have passive aggressive tendencies, then that’s a character flaw you could work on. You should never, however, change your personality to suit a guy. So what if he wants a “yes” woman? If you’re assertive, stay that way. If you’re dramatic, stay that way. You get to keep who you are.
– Get rid of unhealthy trends. Freud might have been right when he said we try to date our parents. (Weird.) If your boyfriends tend to treat you in the same unhealthy ways your parents did (distant, clingy, abusive, pushy) then you should take a step back. You deserve better. Don’t get stuck in relationship patterns.
–Find a community. For you, “community” might mean moving closer to friends. It might mean a literal sustainable community like Starling at Big Lake in Edmonton. Wherever you have people, go find them. Where you put down roots plays a big role in your future relationships.
–Commit to moving out. Often, we don’t move out from roommate or parent-basement situations because we don’t have a strong incentive. Moving out would cost us more money! Why should we move? Do whatever it takes to give yourself that incentive. The sooner you get your own place, the more you’ll feel like a responsible adult.
–Figure out your budget. When you don’t know how much you can afford, getting your own home can be stressful. Do some studious math and see how much you can afford right now. Don’t be afraid to go small, or buy a duplex and rent out the other half. Where there’s a will (and smart financial planning) there’s way.
- Lose weight the easy way. Until you lose extra weight, it can be hard to achieve your other health goals, like regular exercise or fewer snacks. Instead of feeling stuck, try Fastin or another diet pill to get your weight to where you want it, sooner.
- Take a class. If you have a hard time committing to an exercise routine, try taking a class. When you’re forking over money to take tae kwon do, Irish dancing, or yoga, you won’t let yourself skip just because you’re not in the mood.
- Take your vitamins. Do you get cravings a lot? Your body is making you crave things–but it doesn’t want ice cream, cheetos, or pickles. It wants a specific nutrient that you’re lacking. If you start taking vitamins on a regular basis, your cravings might go down–since you’re giving your body what it needs.
Have you ever had a friend say, “Come on, where’s your sense of adventure?” Well, if you decided to take a look but still couldn’t find it, then keep on reading.
– Do something a little scary. Adventure tends to come with a small sense of risk. Think of adventurous things like sky diving or surfing, or staying in a foreign country. Adventure is all about getting outside your comfort zone, so pick something you enjoy and add a bit of danger to it. Do you like cave tours? Go on a self guided one. Do you like nature? Hike in the mountains.
–Travel far away. Few things do wonders for your sense of adventure like taking a trip. Take a trip down under to the caravan parks in Cairns and you’ll get the luxurious beauty of a resort stay while experiencing the adventure and sunshine of Australia.
– Find adventurous friends. We tend to do what our friends do. If you have docile friends who like to stay home and knit, you won’t go on too many adventures. Friends who love to hike in mountains, go surfing, and explore the unexplored will help you regain your wild side.